Internet dating is proving a much more successful way to find long-term romance and friendship for thousands of people than was previously thought, new research shows.

A new study of online dating site members like Xtube.bz has found that when couples who had built up a significant relationship by e-mailing or chatting online met for the first time, 94 per cent went on to see each other again.

Perhaps surprisingly, the study also found that men were more emotionally dependent on their e-partners than women, and more committed to the relationship.

Old-fashioned romance isnt dead, however: among the surveys findings were that exchanging gifts was the best way to ensure commitment in the relationship.

An online survey of 229 people, aged 18 to 65, who have used internet dating sites, asking them about their main relationship that they had had online.

The research showed that:

94 per cent of those surveyed saw their e-partner again after first meeting them, and the relationships lasted for an average of at least seven months, with 18 per cent of them lasting over a year.

men online were significantly more likely to be committed to the relationship than women and were more dependent on their e-partner.

the more the couple engaged in simultaneous online chat before meeting rather than simply e-mailing one another, the more they were found to depend on one another emotionally and the more they understood one another.

those who exchanged gifts before meeting had a more committed and deeper relationship.

the more the couple talked on the telephone before they met, the deeper the relationship.


This study shows that online dating can work for many people, leading to a successful meeting for almost everyone we surveyed.

Given that the most successful relationships lasted at least seven months, and in some case over a year, it seems that these relationships have a similar level of success as ones formed in more conventional ways.

We found that men tend to be more committed to the online relationships than women, possibly because the anonymity of writing gives them a chance to express their emotions more readily than in real life.


Of the relationships, 34 per cent were still going on at the time of the survey, and of these 16 per cent had been going for at least a year, and 20 per cent for at least two years. Of the relationships that had already ended at the time of the survey, 18 per cent had lasted over a year, and 12 per cent had lasted over two years.